huh? talk about your problems? why?

what are you supposed to do when you see one of your friendships unraveling, but your friend refuses to address the situation? i was in this position in the past, and i'm still not sure if i dealt with it properly. you see, when i was coming home every weekend from drake, i was getting strong vibes that one of my closest friends wasn't enjoying himself. at first i thought it was just in certain situations, but after awhile i realized that it was basically whenever i was around. so literally every weekend i would ask him if everything was okay and if there was anything he wanted to talk about. never got a word out of him about the problem. then one night it was all laid on the table and i felt 100% betrayed.

whether it was right or not, i took his advice and more than 3 years later he is back to being one of my closest friends. logic would tell me that since everything has worked itself out, i must have approached the situation in an appropriate manner. but what if that was just that one situation or with that one person? what if i do the same thing now and it blows up in my face? i just don't want to make the wrong decision because i fear that a friendship i treasure is on the line.

any suggestions?

it's just so difficult when i try to be proactive about a situation if they continuously refuse to engage in a conversation about it. derek has explained to me that when it comes to him, he just needs a short while to be by himself and he will be over whatever it is that is bothering him, but i'm not sure that everyone is the same way. erg. not a clue.

i s'pose that i'll just go about life as i have and hope that things work themselves out. just had the thought that maybe if being myself is not good enough for someone then maybe the friendship wasn't supposed to last. thinking that way hurts but is it reality? bummer.

i'm in a glass case of emotion! had to end with at least an attempt at optimism. if you are reading this and that didn't make you feel any better, just think about farting noises, they are funny!


"no i won't cry on the outside, anymore."